Shane Grove has been my best and closest guy friend for a while. He grew up in Dubios WY and you would think we would have been better friends in high school since we played sports against each other but as it was we didn't know a lot about one another until college. I had dated a roommate of his for a couple months and Shane and I just got closer and closer and become best friends. I would run into him on campus all the time at first and just talk to him being polite since he was roommates with the guy I liked at the time but then when that relationship ended Shane and I still kept in touch. He would hit me up on Facebook or wait at a certain place on campus that he knew I would have to pass by just to see me. We then started hanging out more and talking more just to get closer and closer as friends at first. He became I man I trusted with everything in my life, there wasn't a thing he didn't know about me and even when I would try and hold something back that I didn't think he would want to know he always managed to get it out of me and still love me for who I had become and for everything I had gone through. Just like my dad he never seemed to doubt me, he always believed that I would do my best and that I could do anything I put my mind to. He was constantly reminding me how naturally beautiful I am and how there was nothing I needed to change about my body or my personality that I was perfect the way God made me. I don't know how many times I asked him if he and my father had been talking because dad use to always say the same thing. Some nights we would go out swing dancing and Shane wouldn't let me put make up on or wear my hair in anything other than my natural curls. He was constantly trying to boost my confidence in myself and slowly I started to believe the way he did.
Shane was always taking care of me. My freshman year I got Swine Flu and had it for about two weeks, it wiped out my immune system pretty bad so I seemed to get sick a lot easier than your average Joe. Over time Shane realized that I got sick easier than normal and was always there to take care of me. Between my chronic migraines and chronic sinus infection he doctored me up a lot using his essential oils, making me dinner, wrapping me up in blankets to sweat out the sickness, making me drink so much water and cranberry juice I felt like I was going to the bathroom every hour but I wouldn't trade those times and memories for anything. He knows how much I love swing dancing so he would constantly take me anywhere we could to dance, sometimes he would crank up his music while making me dinner and make me dance with him in the kitchen.
Shane helped me through some of the biggest trials in my life, placing my son for adoption and my dad getting diagnosed with cancer. He was always there asking me how I'm doing and really asking me like I knew he cared and wanted the real answer not the FINE or OKAY answer I gave to everyone else that would ask. He offered many times to take me home to see dad and the family. He was constantly impressing me with how much he loved and cared for me. He helped me watch my niece and nephew and he was so good with them. He was always doing something so I knew he cared and was there for me no matter what the trial or struggle was. He was a man I grew to love and cherish. Shane had such a good heart. I can still hear him calling me "little lady" all the time. Every time I watch wrestling I can see him sitting there perched up on his seating so into the match. I miss his hugs that were just like my dads, tight and loving.
Shane was constantly thinking of others. He gave me the dog I have now and I am so attached to her when she dies it will be extremely hard, she was my favorite gift from him. Little Becky is just as fun loving, caring and energetic as Shane was.
April 2014 I received a call saying Shane had rolled his truck and was DOA. I had talked to him minutes before his accident, none of it felt real! All those feelings I felt with dads death came rushing back, I couldn't breath, I couldn't function properly. Another major chunk of my heart had been torn out. I didn't know what I was going to do without him as my best friend constantly giving me advice and being there for me. Once again my mind would keep me up at night replaying all the times we spent together.
Cherish the time and moments you get with your loved ones, you never know when it will be your last. Take time to let them know how you really truly feel. Don't let things come between you without fixing them and making it right. Be grateful for the wonderful memories you made with them. Keep those in your mind always. Don't take for granite your loved ones, the ones that love and care about you. Please please cherish every little moment, even if they aren't the happiest of moments cherish them and remember them.
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